Scoop Makhathini Opens Up On Why He Never Wanted To Be A Father

Scoop Makhathini Opens Up On Why He Never Wanted To Be A Father. In a candid conversation on the Relebogile Mabotja Podcast, South African media personality and entrepreneur, Scoop Makhathini, shared his deeply personal journey of fatherhood, revealing his initial hesitations and how his perspective on life has shifted since becoming a dad.

Makhathini, who is a proud father to a teenager, admitted that the idea of parenthood was something he never wanted. “It was scary, it still is. I think it’s calmer now,” he confessed, reflecting on the challenges that come with raising a child.

He went on to explain that his decision to avoid having kids was rooted in a profound love for independence and a deep fear of emotional attachment. “I never wanted to be a father. I really wanted to be a free-flowing soul on this earth,” Makhathini shared. “For a number of reasons, I love very deeply, and I felt like even with my family, it’s gonna be hard to bury my people. And I also don’t want to be buried before them because it’s gonna be hard to hurt them leaving.”

This fear of separation extended to more than just family; Scoop Makhathini revealed that he struggles with the idea of losing anything or anyone he holds dear. “Even pets, I’m not the kind of guy who has pets, because I don’t like the separation. It cuts very deep for me,” he admitted.

His deep-rooted fear of attachment didn’t just inform his views on family but also his broader life philosophy. “I really believe I’m here to do what I wanna do on this earth,” Makhathini explained. “Some of the things and some of the choices I make might not sit well even with my mom or my dad or my sisters, you know. Even when I was young, I had a very deep sense of my mission. It’s my mission, and I don’t care what you think or say, I’m going to fulfil my mission.”

However, Makhathini acknowledged that his mission and his desire for freedom came with a cost. The experience of fatherhood has taught him the limitations that come with having a child. “Having kids, you can’t make certain decisions that are spontaneous for your wellbeing,” he explained, pointing out how his previous dreams of living a solitary life, like building his own house in the jungle and living off the land, are now complicated by the responsibility of parenthood.

Despite his initial reservations about fatherhood, Makhathini now describes the experience as “calmer” and has embraced the journey, even if it remains a challenge.